Re: A few questions/probs
2.9.3 does work fine otherwise everyone would be unhappy. It doesn't matter what the post status is...as long as you have the "Send Email Notification" option set to "Yes", the admin (user account #1) will get sent an email.
Are you using your default admin
WP account or did you create a brand new one? Emails will go only to the first default account created so make sure that account and email address are correct.
If that doesn't fix it, PM me your admin login/pwd so I can personally take a look.